how-i-came-to-my-ideas-about-love

For many years, I have tried to understand why people hurt one another, why we so often fail to understand even those closest to us, and how our unconscious patterns develop.

My experiences as a physician, my encounters with patients, and my own long journey toward self-understanding gradually led me to a theory about love, emotional security, and the complementarity of men and women.

Some of my conclusions differ from widely accepted views. They are hypotheses, not established scientific facts, and I know that I may be wrong.

Yet these ideas grew out of years of observation, reflection, and personal struggle. They have also led to painful misunderstandings and conflicts.

I do not believe that learning from another person makes anyone inferior.

I am interested in how genuine emotional security may help someone move beyond fear, power struggles, and the need to maintain appearances — toward a deeper understanding of themselves and others.

In my theory, a man who has already traveled a long path toward self-understanding may provide a woman with this kind of security and help her move beyond these patterns of behavior.

I would like to share how I arrived at these ideas, including my doubts and the questions that remain unanswered.